Couples Counseling
One of our most essential needs is to love and be loved, and yet many people feel lost and confused about how to cultivate lasting, romantic relationships.
We are surrounded with media advertising and television programming that portrays exploitive ways of relating romantically, which emphasize independence and competitiveness. Other media messages are filled with notions of what romantic relationship should be like, referencing “heaven on earth” and “living happily ever after.”
Relationships are complex, in that there are two individual people, with different personalities, ways of relating, expectations, and desires. It is natural that we would experience differences with our partner. However, these differences often feel like conflicts, power struggles, and are threatening to the relationship.
Past pains and hurts are often activated within our romantic relationships, in that we feel our deepest and most intense emotions within intimate relationships. We may feel deep love and joy, alongside with intense fear and insecurity. While we want to love fully, we also want to feel safe and protected.
How do we come to terms with this two seemly opposite needs within relationship?
Through my extensive training and research (including my dissertation on the topic of Conscious Intimate Relationship), I am able to offer many skills and methods to help couples and individuals handle conflict and challenges within their relationship as an opportunity for growth.
These skills help facilitate more:
- Awareness of habitual patterns and deeper experiences (feelings, thoughts, expectations, and desires)
- Empowerment and internal security
- Passion and authentic intimacy
- Balance of intimacy and autonomy needs
Through the process of counseling and personal growth, couples and individuals begin to view their relationship as a practice and are able to deal with challenges more successfully. Clients experience deep insights, resolution, and inspiration, and they feel much more equipped in how to cultivate a lasting, passionate, and authentic partnership.
If you are interested in relating to your significant other in a new way, then please feel free to contact me to schedule a free consultation or an appointment.
Couples counseling can be helpful and effective at various stages of relationship (i.e. dating, pre-marital or pre-life commitment, and marriage), as well as in ending or contemplating ending a relationship (i.e. separation and divorce).
Couples can work on issues related to:
- Connection
- Communication
- Conflict resolution
- Intimacy concerns
- Sexuality
- Affairs
- Betrayal
- Commitment
- Differentiation (how to hold on to your self and not loose your self)
- Adult romantic attachment
- Creating a conscious intimate relationship
If you are interested in relating to your significant other in a new way, then please feel free to contact me to schedule a free consultation or an appointment.
Boulder psychotherapist and counselor Jessica Higgins, PhD, LPC provides counseling and therapy to couples, individuals, teens, and families. She specializes in helping clients handle challenges and conflict in their relationship as opportunities for growth. She also specializes in working with issues related to anxiety, depression, grief, loss, life transition, spirituality, stress reduction, healing, communication, conflict resolution, and personal growth.