ERP 035: How To Not Sacrifice Your Relationship Health When You Are Working Hard

By Posted in - Balancing love and work & Podcast & Relationships October 1st, 2015 0 Comments How to Balance Work and Love Life

How to Balance Work and Love Life

These are my podcast show notes: Be sure to listen to the episode to hear stories, examples, and more tips.

Last week, I interviewed Dr. Jenev Caddell, She specializes in helping entrepreneurs balance work and relationships. She talked about the importance of making your relationship a priority, especial during busy work times. Today, I would like to share a few more tips.

Today, I would like to go into a little more depth. Here are some tips to consider:

1. Trust

  • how to balance work and love lifeFind a balance between security and growth.
  • Security allows you to take risks and grow.
  • Being resourced
  • Reassurance (“This is temporary. We are going to get through this.”)
  • Belief (“We love each other. We are strong.”)

2. Communication

  • “I’m not going to be as available for a period of time”
  • Talk about ways to work together
  • Be mindful about checking in and inviting communication

3. Agreements

  • balancing love and workNegotiate new agreements for clear expectations
  • Follow through with your commitments (commit to less)
  • Say things like, “Let me know if this isn’t working for you.”
  • Say other things like, “Let me know when you need me”

4. Effort

  • Demonstrate regard, consideration, and care when you can
  • Be conscious of your actions and contributions
  • Say words of acknowledgment
  • Make time to be present
  • Give your undivided attention

5. Awareness of Stress

  • Reference the Stress Response Curve
    the stress response curve in relationship

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  • Recognize your cues – emotionally (irritable, quick to anger, overwhelmed), mentally (distracted, preoccupied), physically (shortness of breath, muscle tension, bumping into things, accident prone), socially (less connected and close, less positive interactions)
  • Work to destress and find balance
  • Do Self-care (sleep, nutrition, physical activity)
  • Take breaks (time to disconnect, get away, get some perspective)
  • Be aware of your breathing patterns

6. Reconnect

  • Allow time (not going to happen right away)
  • Communicate desire
  • Be available
  • balancing work and relationshipsBe patient
  • Debrief
  • Appreciate one another

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