ERP 089: How to use Love Languages to strengthen connection [Transcript]
ERP 089: How To Use Love Languages To Strengthen Your Connection [Transcript]
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For today’s podcast episode – again, this is episode #89, How To Use Love Languages To Strengthen Your Connection. I’m imagining many of you have heard of the concept “love language.” Some of you I’m thinking have also delved a little deeper, maybe read the book The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman, which was written about 20 years ago, and since then it’s gained quite a bit of popularity in the self-help literature arena. Many people resonate with his categorization of love, and clinicians, therapists, coaches often have used it as a tool for us to gain awareness around how we express love and how we receive love.
If you’ve never even heard of the concept, that’s absolutely fine. Today in this podcast I’m going to describe to you what these five love languages are, how to determine your love language, as well as how to guess or get a good sense of what your partner’s love language is. I’m gonna give you lots of examples, and lay the foundation.
In the next episode, I’m going to go deeper with aspects and layers of the love languages. How it supports your interactions in a positive way, or how the lack of awareness and attention to it can actually be a detriment and can cause disconnection in your interactions and in your connection in your relationship. I’m gonna also talk about how to apply this towards the holidays and towards gift-giving. This could be obviously specific to this holiday or just even any occasion where you might wanna show up and acknowledge and give love to someone that you care about. I’m speaking most specifically to your romantic spouse or partner, but this can apply to any relationship.
Gary Chapman, since his original The Five Love Languages book, has written sequels and applied this to parenting, the workforce – your colleagues and professional working relationships. So the applications of this are wider than your romantic relationship, but I’m gonna focus mostly on your intimate relationship because that’s kind of the focus of this podcast.
If you are completely unfamiliar with this concept of love languages, I wanna just name very clearly, in its most basic form — I think of love languages as a categorizational tool. There’s five categories, and it represents the way people typically express and receive love. So if there’s five categories, you can think about them as five separate languages. You might have German, French, Spanish, Japanese and Chinese, or Mandarin. So you have five languages, and you might partner with someone who speaks a different language. That could be challenging, if you’re not aware that you’re speaking a different language. It’s hard to conceive what that would look like, because if you were to go to Spain and you don’t speak Spanish, and you’re trying to talk to somebody in English, you would be very cognizant or clear that you were not communicating.
Although in relationship I think this is why it gets tricky – we start relationship in this very beautiful, romantic phase where it’s supported by neurochemicals such as dopamine and oxytocin, and it’s almost as if for a moment we have access to being a high-level linguist. We can speak all of these languages, and we’re just adept at expressing love freely and feeling love freely. That feeling of “I wanna shout from the rooftops of how much I love you, and I’m looking for all the different ways that I can express my affection towards you.”
This is that beginning phase of courtship, of romance, of partnering. That phase can typically last 6 to 18 months. However, our nervous system can’t actually sustain that high. If you’ve ever experienced this high falling in love feeling, sometimes we don’t eat, we don’t sleep, we’re intimate all the time and we just wanna be with each other all the time, and it’s just our primary focus. So it’s not realistic to think that we’re gonna sustain that for our whole life. So once we establish relationship and begin to build a foundation for a long-term, lasting partnership, in a marriage or long-term committed relationship, things settle. We ground, we center, and we get more true to who we are – not that we’re not who we are in the beginning, but we just settle a little, we’re not in that heightened state.
And our partner is also settled, and it’s almost as if the fog clears. And I say the fog because it’s typical that in that first stage of romance we will have fantasies. We will project who we imagine our partner to be, because we really don’t know each other all that well. We know what we can see through just that dating and getting to know each other, but there’s a lot of things that we don’t know, so we’ll fill in the blank. We imagine and make up a story about someone, and we tend to emphasize the similarities and we de-emphasize or overlook the places that we might be different or have different values or different approaches.
So how this relates to the love languages – again, if we’re really adept in those first few stages of expressing love freely and fully and multi-versed in the way that we express love, then it’s flowing and it’s effortless. Well, when things settle and we come into more of who we are in our ways, we tend to resort to a top one, top two love language. I’m gonna explain what those five love languages are in a moment, but just to kind of follow this thought through, if I’m gonna speak English and my partner’s speaking Spanish and that’s where we settle into, the way that I’m giving love, he’s not gonna get it. He’s not gonna understand it because he doesn’t speak English.
Vice versa, if he’s speaking Spanish and I don’t speak Spanish, I’m not gonna receive his love, I’m not gonna feel cared about. This can get extremely complicated. It can lead to feelings of frustration, of feeling disconnected… We’re not on the same page, we’re not feeling bonded. We can have feelings of doubt, of “Does he really love me?”, “Does she really care about me? Does she really value me?”, “Is this relationship important?”, because we’re not actually receiving and communicating that message of love.
This can actually be quite challenging. I believe that Gary Chapman’s original intention here was to just get people to understand the differences perhaps between you and your partner and the way that you express love, and that if you would have insight into those differences, then perhaps you can work together to communicate better in the way that you express love. Now, there are some criticisms of this model, and I’ll talk about that later. I don’t think it’s the end-all-be-all of relationships, I just think it’s a helpful tool to consider, particularly when we are giving space to our differences; respecting that we might look at things differently, we might approach things differently, and especially when we’re talking about love. This is the number one reason why we partner at this day and age. We don’t need each other for survival, typically. We don’t marry for land or acquiring wealth, most of us don’t. It’s usually for that emotional connection and for love.
This is a historically newer phenomenon. This is something that I think a lot of researchers have been actively studying in the last 10-20 years, so we have more models to navigate love and intimacy, and I think this is a very useful tool.
Let’s talk about what these five categories are. Again, this comes from Gary Chapman’s book The Five Love Languages. You can find the link for that book on my show notes, which can be found on my website – DrJessicaHiggins.com, click on Podcast, and all of the most recent episodes are at the top. This is episode 89.
Before I describe each love language, I wanna make a note here – they’re all equal. They’re not sequential or hierarchical, they all have the same value. I think people reference them in different order; I’m just gonna state them as I have them here.
What I’m gonna do is I’m gonna describe each one, I’m gonna give you some examples, and then I’m gonna talk about how you can determine your love language and how you can try to get a good guess on your partner’s love language.
Number one – this is the first category, the first love language – is Words of Affirmation. This is the language of verbal, spoken words, that are used to express care, regard and affection. This is my probably number one love language, personally. I tend to gravitate towards expressing through words or through written words how much I care about somebody. I tend to wanna acknowledge them, be specific about what I appreciate about them. I will give them words of encouragement. “You’ve got this! You can do this”, and I will tell them that I love them, and what they mean to me.
Other examples of this are, “You look great!” or “I love how you make me laugh!” or “You mean the world to me!” There are some words to express and encapsulate the feeling of love. Someone in this primary love language is gonna give words of affirmation to express love, and they’re also gonna feel most loved and most cared about when words are spoken to them. It’s one of their primary ways of feeling loved.
As a moment ago, I just mentioned part of the whole purpose of this categorization is to recognize that sometimes you and your partner, or maybe even likely that you and your partner have different love languages. So if my love language is words, and my husband’s language is actions, he might be showing me through his actions and I might be showing him I love him through my words. But again, they’re not the same language, so we could be missing each other entirely. I’m gonna talk a little bit more about that in a moment.
Number two – Physical Touch. This is the kinesthetic, physical contact; making skin-to-skin contact. Holding hands, hugging, embracing, sex, love-making – this is the physical affection that’s used to show love, to show care, and to show appreciation. For people that this is their primary love language, it’s almost as if the physical contact, that physical touch is a way of transmitting love. Again, that’s the way that they’re gonna wanna have contact, to experience the quality of love.
There’s a video which I’ll make a note of, that I would love to put on my show notes for you; it was a Ted talk, and I think she was a psychologist or a counselor, and I believe she was even at Boulder, Colorado, and she was talking about the fact that it’s pretty stereotypical for men to be high in this love language, and that there’s something neurological about being in physical contact, that real, skin-to-skin contact. She does a great job of talking about that.
I do think that there’s some real validity to this love language. We can see this in our early stages of life, where babies need to be held; they need to be caressed and nurtured and shown affection. Their brains actually develop more fully by having that contact. There’s even all this research about when a child is born, as soon as possible to allow the child to make contact with the parent or the caregiver to have that direct skin-to-skin contact, that the neurological brain formulation and development is very supported by this. I’m not gonna go into all the science of it, but there’s a lot of supportiveness of this physical contact. We even have heard studies for the importance of having hugs. In adulthood if you’re not in relationship or you don’t have a lot of family or close friends around you, you could feel a lack of this touch – feeling held, feeling contact with another human being. We need a certain amount of hugs throughout the day.
I actually have a really good friend who is single right now, and has been for the last year, and there’s times where I will be around her – we play volleyball, and sometimes in the morning it’s cold, and I’m a pretty affectionate person, and there’s been times where I’ll just rub her back affectionately, and she’s like “Oh gosh, that feels so good!”, just to feel that nurturing. If you’re not in relationship, it could feel a real lack. I’m gonna talk about how this influences relationship in a little bit, so I’m not gonna go into great depth.
But again, this could just be the sitting close together while watching a movie or a program, it could be just really making a point to acknowledge one another while you’re in the room; it’s a caress of the back, or a touch on the arm, of just like “I see you, I feel you, I’m with you, I love you”, but through physical gesture. No words.
Number three – Acts of Service. This is where something is done for someone else. I did something for you. It’s most often service-oriented. It’s “I wanted to help, I wanted to support you, I wanted you to feel my care.” Someone in this love language will often think it’s about actions; actions speak louder than words. If somebody says, “I love you, I care about you, you mean so much to me”, but you need something from them… Maybe you’re moving, or you have a project that needs some extra support and you ask for help, or there’s something important going on in your life, like you have a performance and it’s like “Hey, I would love for you to come”, and they never show up, they never put forth the effort to do any action, to show you they’re there for you… For someone with this love language it would be very difficult to think that that person really does care, because they’re hearing the words but there’s no action to support it.
A moment ago I mentioned that my husband – this is probably one of his higher love languages. In the beginning stages of him and I dating, there was some figuring this out, for sure. Because he would do so many things for me. I’m like, “Wow, he is a helpful guy.” I thought it was really sweet, but I wasn’t getting the message that he loved me and that he cared about me. I knew he was fond of me, but I just thought this was kind of his personality, that he had a great work ethic and was super helpful and just showed up in that way. Where for me, being that words of affirmation are one of my primary love languages, I would give him cards where I would write to him about what he meant to me, and I would share with him just the impact of his presence in my life, and I would just describe the quality of my feeling towards him, and write a poem in there… I was very expressive with my words.
Where when I would get a card from him, like for a holiday or my birthday, most often it was like one sentence, or just even “Love, Reid”, and I was like “Okay…” Like, just not at all my love language. And it took me a moment, and I was like “Ooh, he is telling me he loves me by doing all these things.” There was definitely a lot of layers to this to figure out, which I’ll talk more about, but… It was just very funny, the stark contrast.
In his family of origin, growing up, there was not a lot of words of “I love you” and verbal expression; it was through action. And I grew up in a family where there was a lot of verbal encouragement and appreciation and acknowledgment, so there was a real difference there, and we had a lot to learn about how to meet each other. I’ll be willing to share a lot more about our dynamic, but the point I wanna make here is in this overarching, speaking different languages, that this was very apparent pretty early on, and it was something for us to figure out for sure.
Acts of Service – this could be cooking a mean… “I cooked your favorite meal for you”, or taking care of an errand, like “I got the car serviced/cleaned”, or it could be “You know, you keep mentioning the garden… Let’s just carve out sometime this weekend. Let’s really knock this out.” Whether or not it’s some landscaping project or some type of gardening thing, or cleaning out the garage… There’s a way of really “I’m giving you my service, my effort.”
The other night my husband was working late, and I brought him a hot meal. I got a plate, wrapped it with tinfoil and drove over to where he was working, and wanted to give him a hot meal for dinner. I knew he had worked all day and was still working late, and I just wanted to show him my care and my love. I knew that would land with him. That was just something I could do to demonstrate my love for him.
Number four – Quality Time. This is the language of real, undivided attention, focus and presence. This is where someone drops everything to be with you, whether or not it’s laser-focused, like “I’m giving you my eye contact, my phone’s put away, I’m listening to you, I’m minimizing all distractions, and I just am fully available for you.” Or, if it’s sharing time together, being in each other’s energy.
A lot of my family lives all over the United States, so I don’t have a lot of family that lives close by, and this is so apparent, this quality time sensation when I am with family on a trip, because I don’t get to be with them very often. So being in somebody’s physical presence, feeling the sensation of just hanging together, sharing space together, being around each other feels very different than talking on the phone, on a Skype call, or just thinking about them.
When someone is able to share space with you, a loved one, that can feel incredibly important. Someone who ranks high in this love language will feel like they matter, will feel like they’re a priority. All the other demands on someone’s schedule are secondary, come later, and you really are important, you’re special, you’re loved, and I’m gonna show you by really carving out time to settle that out aside and just be with you.
Again, for someone in this love language it sometimes doesn’t even matter what’s being done, it’s just that shared attention and the really being present, that could just feel like the best time of your life. Some of the best memories could even be when you got stuck somewhere. You were stuck in an airport or you had a flat tire and you’re stuck on the side of the road, but you just got to share space and really try to make the best of it, and enjoy each other. That actually could turn into a good time for someone who quality time is important, where it’s just about being together.
Number five – Gifts. These are tangible objects that are used to convey what you mean to me, how I feel about you, and “I’ve been thinking about you.” These physical objects are a symbol of love and affection. Someone with this primary love language will feel incredibly special when someone put effort and thought into a gift. This could be something that has high monetary value or actually very little. It could be “I picked you a flower”, or “I saw this rock in the shape of a heart and I thought of you.” It’s not about the money spent, it’s about the attitude and the thought. It could be, “Oh, I was at the grocery store and I saw your favorite drink, and I bought it for you.”
My husband likes chocolate milk sometimes, and occasionally I will buy him a chocolate milk when I’m just running errands, and it’s a treat for him. It’s a way to show him through some physical object that I was thinking about him. It’s a representation that’s very tangible. For some, this could be like a framed photo that’s a memento of some sort.
It’s funny, my closest friend who I’ve known since I was like six or seven — it took me a really long time to figure out gifts are one of her primary love languages, because she would give me all these cute little sayings of plaques, framed photos, but it was all very best-friends stuff, and it’s not necessarily my aesthetic, but it dawned on me that “Oh, she likes to buy little gifts to let me know she thinks about me, or loves me and cares about me.” So that’s one of her ways of expressing love.
Gifts aren’t my number one love language, so I’ve had to really work at getting her gifts; if I go on a trip… I do think about her often and I love her dearly, it’s just the way we express might be different. I’ve tried to up of love through gifts. Typically, I’ve tended to be pretty practical in my gift-giving. Do they need it? Is it something that is of high-quality? I kind of resort to that practicality.
I’ve tried to think about her in this way and give gifts that she will feel thought about and cared about. It’s the thought that’s involved, rather than the material gift.
Okay, the five love languages are:
1. Words of Affirmation
2. Physical Touch
3. Acts of Service
4. Quality Time
How do you know what your primary love language is, and how do you know what your partner’s primary love language is? As you’re listening to this description, I’m imagining that you’re guessing what your partner’s love language is and what your love language is. I’d love to give you just a little bit more to work with, so that you can try to hone this in.
Again, I wanna note here – people typically have one or two top love languages. You can almost rank your love languages from highest to lowest. Again, the highest is representative of the way in which you feel most love and the way you express love.
One of the easiest, best ways to find out what your love language is is what you give most easily and most often. Noticing in yourself what you give most often. When you think about your partner and you love them, what’s your impulse? What is the first thing you want to do to express to them that you care about them and you love them? Are you thinking, “Oh, I wanna do something special”, or you’re like, “I wanna call them and tell them how I feel”? Or are you like, “Oh, I wanna give them a gift. I’ve been thinking about them and I just wanna really make a point to let them feel cared about, make it really tangible.” So what’s the most natural, what’s the easiest thing for you to give?
Another question to target your top love language is to compare the languages next to one another and see what you resonate most with. If you ask yourself, would you feel more loved and cared about if someone went out of their way to go to a store, find something that you would love or that you really need, and wrap it and give it to you, and really just the thought that’s behind it? Would you feel loved and care about, or would you feel more cared about if someone called you and said, “I would love to spend time with you, I miss you. I would love to get together and just spend time with you”, and they carved out time out of their busy schedule to just be with you, do something that you would enjoy, give you their attention, their focus, their affection, their warmth, and just be super available? What would help you feel that sense of love? What would you want more of?
You can also even look back in time – when have you felt most loved? When are the times that you feel most cared about and most special? These are all questions to help gear you towards what lands, what resonates, what helps you feel loved the most.
Your partner – one of the best ways to see possibly what their love language is is just by observing them. What do they typically give? What’s the thing they typically do the most? Again, as an example I shared with myself when my husband and I first started dating, I was noticing how helpful he was. He would do all these things for me, and it was foreign to me. I mean, I kind of got it, but I didn’t really get the depth of it. When you’re thinking about your partner, when they’re trying to express their feelings, their love, what do they give?
You can also listen and observe what do they complain about not getting? Whether or not it’s from you or from someone else. Is it, “Oh, I take all this time to give them this special gift and they forget… They don’t even get me a card.” The complaint around, “They missed the opportunity of acknowledging my birthday (or a holiday) through a gift”. Or what is the thing that they ask for the most? What do they request of you? Do they want quality time? Do they want you to not be distracted? There’s that thing of technoference — I’ll write that down too, I did a podcast episode around… That’s actually a thing where our devices get in the way – it’s like interference with technology – of our connecting.
Someone who ranks high in the quality time will really request, “Hey, stop what you’re doing. Can you spend a moment with me? No technoference here. Put your phone down.”
As you’re thinking about these love languages, maybe targeting your top language or your partner’s top language, I would love to give you just some more examples of what this looks like, for you to contemplate. And also, I wanna mention that Gary Chapman on his website has a quiz, so you can take his quiz, and most likely get a pretty good sense of your top love language. He’s helping you target your top love language, as well as having your partner take the quiz so that he/she can identify their top love language. This can be a helpful tool.
I’ll put the link on the show notes. Again, you can find that on my website, which is DrJessicaHiggins.com, and scroll down to the bottom where it says “Mentioned” and you can find the links that I have talked about. That will be the quiz, his book, and a couple other things that I’ve mentioned today.
Other signs that your partner or someone else might speak the love language of words of affirmation… So this is a person that is going to maybe leave you voice messages throughout the day. They might give you more cards, or they might write you a poem, and they also will respond very favorably, or they’ll be maybe elated when they get a nice compliment or written acknowledgment. So this is something that would indicate love language of words is high for them
Physical Touch – this is the person that might be very physically affectionate. They might enjoy that public display of affection, where you’re walking down the street and you’re holding hands, maybe linked arm-in-arm or walking hip-to-hip. It’s the partner that feels happiest in an embrace and relaxes in that cuddling, close physical contact. They initiate a lot of physical contact. Maybe sex, maybe kissing, but they love that physical closeness.
Acts of Service – they will typically do a lot. They will put effort into doing things for you. For my husband, if I just talk about something that needs to get done, he’ll often volunteer or sometimes he’ll take the initiative to do it without my even asking him. He’ll just do it on his own accord, and it’s his way of wanting to help maybe take something off my plate, my load. It’s one of his gifts that he can give me; it’s the way he can really say and communicate, “I’m here for you, you matter to me. I’m putting you as a priority and I’m putting forth that effort to do something for you.”
So he or people that are in this top love language will feel really important and feel like they matter, and it runs deep for them. Words don’t really land, gifts might not matter, but if you’re showing up, putting your time, energy, thought, planning, physical effort and showing up and doing whatever needs to be done, that’s what communicates love the most. None of the other stuff matters as much. It’s like, “I know you’re there for me through your actions.”
Quality Time – this is the person that’s gonna wanna spend one-on-one time with you. The getting together as a group is not gonna be as fulfilling; they’re gonna want that very intentional, present time. If you’re distracted, it’s not gonna matter. They wanna feel that you’re really with them, whether or not it’s good eye contact, or listening, or just relaxed and present in the moment and sharing time together… Through going on a hike or sharing a meal, but it’s that quality presence. They’ll feel that they matter, that they’re important and they’re a priority.
Gifts – again, this is the person that’s gonna give a lot of little gifts sometimes. It can be little trinkets, mementos, and there’s a sentimentalness to it, where they might give you something that’s got history to it, or represents a shared experience. This is something that has memory and significance to it. It’s a physical, tangible object to represent and be a symbol of connection and of love.
This person might also really enjoy the finer things – high quality items. They’ll most likely buy gifts for special occasions, life events and milestones they wanna acknowledge through a gift. It will be thoughtful and it will be something very intentional. They’ll put a lot of energy into a gift.
They feel most cared about when they get that symbol of love. Again, it’s not about the monetary value, it’s about the thought involved, so when they feel a thoughtful gift, they feel extremely loved and cared for, and they may cherish that gift. It might be that symbol that really represents the love and the care, and that they can have some sentiment around that.
There are other layers to this, so in the next episode I’m gonna deepen in this conversation. This is laying the groundwork, describing the five categories to you, giving you some examples, descriptors so you can try to find yourself, perhaps find your partner and begin to think about the way you and your partner interact. It’s possible that you have been missing each other, or not really connecting in the ways that matter most in the matters of expressing love and receiving love.
If you have an observation or a reflection about your relationship, I would love to hear from you. I would love for you to comment on the show notes of this podcast episode. Again, you can go to my website, which is DrJessicaHiggins.com, click on Podcast and you can find the comments section at the bottom. If you wanna just note what your love language is, if you take the quiz and you find that you’re surprised, or perhaps your partner takes the quiz and they have their top love language and you’re surprised about that, or how these play out in your relationship, I would love to hear from you. I would love to hear how you experience these love languages.
If perhaps you’ve utilized them, if it’s made some difference to you, or brought some insight to you, I would love to hear that as well. Stay tuned for the next episode, where we go a little deeper with some of these layers of how love languages can be supportive, detrimental, and how they can be applied to your relationship interactions.
Thank you for spending this time with me. I know your time is valuable, and I feel privileged and honored to share this time with you, as we’ve talked about love languages and explored the examples of that and some of the dynamics of that. I look forward to the next episode; I hope you’ll stay tuned, and until next time, I hope you will take great care.
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