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ERP 102: What Do You Do When NOTHING Is Working Out?

By Posted in - Podcast March 30th, 2017 2 Comments

In this episode, you will hear me share a personal story of dealing with continual roadblocks. I also offer 4 tips on how to deal with the experience of things not working out as planned.

(Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear more explanations, stories and examples.)

How To Deal With Things Not Working Out

1. Understand that experiencing hardship is a normal part of living. There is nothing wrong with you.

2. Surrender the need to control the process. Accept the reality of what you are going through. The more we resist pain the more suffering we experience. Sometimes we need a breakdown to have a breakthrough.

3. Be present with what you are feeling. This is so hard when things are not going well. You may need time to reflect and connect with what you are feeling. You may need a good cry or an empathic ear from a trusted person. Take time to feel what is real.

4. Listen and be receptive. You may get a new insight or new perspective that feels like an opening to something new. Be open to your intuition, inner wisdom and guidance.

“The turning point at the crest is when you reach the most materialistic, extroverted view of life, when materialization is complete and we feel ‘high’ and successful. In physics terms, the wave has become a particle. The most challenging time may be when the wave turns at the trough – when you’re bored, feel things fading, need space, and must release meaning and what’s outmoded in order to return to Being. In studying physics, this is where the particle becomes the wave. Moving from the trough to crest seems like the fun part because it involves enthusiasm, motivation, and achieving goals. But releasing old forms, relaxing, dreaming of multiple imaginary realities, and rejuvenating ourselves are every bit as pleasurable. Chronic resistance to the turning points of wave can cause exaggerated dramatic shifts, such as crises and traumas.” By Penney Peirce

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  • Patty - Reply

    April 2, 2017 at 8:38 pm

    Oh my God Jessica! I loved your podcast. I was able to relate so much to so many things you said and to you in your spiritual base. Thank you. I wish I had taken the time to listen to these before. Will need to catch up. Love it! Thank you.

    • Dr. Jessica Higgins - Reply

      April 5, 2017 at 12:15 pm

      Thank you so much for your taking the time to comment. It really means a lot to me!!! Thank you for listening!

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