ERP 141: How To Decrease Relationship Pain and Suffering

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Topic: How to heal a painful relationship

“The Value in Pain and the Pain in Value”

In last weeks episode, I talked about Lode Dewulf’s Ted Talk The Value in Pain and the Pain in Value, and how this relates to relationship pain.

I highly recommend watching the video. He does a great job of describing how we compound the amount of pain we experience, by adding more layers of pain.

(Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.)

  • In life, we are all faced with pain.
  • Most of us work really hard at avoiding the pain.
  • Yet, when we do not meet the pain directly, we create more suffering for ourselves.
  • Avoiding, resisting and fighting all create additional pain and suffering. (how to heal a painful relationship)
  • Mindfulness helps regulate the nervous system, so that we can get calm and clear headed.

“Mindfulness is a mental state, which is achieved by focusing one’s awareness on the present moment, while very calmly acknowledging and accepting one’s feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations.” by Lode Dewulf

The Learning Process

The learning process involves four stages. To go to the next stage will involve a little bit of pain.

1. Unaware & Incompetent
Insight
2. Aware & Incompetent
Training
3. Aware & Competent
Practice
4. Unaware & Competent

The Value in Pain and the Pain in Value | Lode Dewulf |

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“Let us stop this obsession to avoid pain. And let us stop the illusion that life, learning, and happiness can ever be without pain. Because that awareness is the first step towards healing out of pain. “ By Lode Dewulf

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Click on this link to access the transcript for this episode: ERP 141: HOW TO DECREASE RELATIONSHIP PAIN AND SUFFERING [TRANSCRIPT]

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