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ERP 152: How to Not Abandon Yourself in Relationship – DR. MARGARET PAUL

Topic: Dealing with self abandonment

Guest: Dr. Margaret Paul

Dr. Margaret Paul is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® self-healing process, recommended by actress Lindsay Wagner and singer Alanis Morissette. She has appeared on numerous radio and television shows (including Oprah). Her book titles include “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved By You”, “Healing Your Aloneness”, “Inner Bonding,” and the recently released “Diet For Divine Connection.” Margaret has successfully worked with thousands around the world and taught classes and seminars for over 50 years.

(Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.)

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE TO LEARN ABOUT:

  • The number one (underlying) reason why relationships fail is self-abandonment.
  • One way that we abandon ourselves is we do not take responsibility for our experience, rather we expect our partner to do it for us.

“We come into relationship expecting to get love rather than share love.” by Dr. Margaret Paul

  • Instead of taking responsibility, we try to control overtly (i.e. anger or blame) or covertly (i.e. withdrawing or shutting down), both of which have very negative effects on the relationship.
  • What happens when we avoid our feelings.
  • What happens when we learn the value and power of our feelings, and how they can help us

“Growing up very few of us learned how to take responsibility for our own fullness, happiness, peace, and joy.” by Dr. Margaret Paul

  • What it would look like if we took responsibility for ourselves (dealing with self abandonment).
  • What happens when we stop blaming our partners, and we learn to accept them.

“We often mistake control for love.” by Dr. Margaret Paul

  • How to cultivate self-love.
  • At any given moment, we are operating from one of two intentions. 1. To protect and avoid. 2. To learn and express, and how to know the difference between them.
  • How to access more energy, joy, and happiness on a daily basis.

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TRANSCRIPT:

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