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Guest David Emerald :

David Emerald Womeldorff is the Creator-in-Chief of the 3 Vital Questions^® leadership frameworks proven to powerfully boost teamwork and productivity. Thousands of people and organizations have achieved breakthroughs by applying his self-leadership techniques and attending his seminars worldwide. David and his wife and business partner Donna Zajonc (sajon) MCC have developed the frameworks that form the basis of the engaging workplace fable, 3 Vital Questions:Transforming Workplace Drama.

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In this episode, Dr. Jessica Higgins and David Emerald discuss:  

• Understanding the Drama Triangle and the three roles involved.
• The distinction between victimization and victimhood.
• Learning the Empowerment Dynamic and the three roles.
• The opposite of a victim position is a creator position.
• How telling a person that they are acting as a victim will trigger reactivity.  
• Within the Drama Triangle, we focus on the problem.  Within the Empowerment Dynamic, the focus is on the desired outcome.  

Key Takeaways:  

• The three roles in the Drama Triangle are victim, persecutor, and rescuer.  
• The antidote to the Drama Triangle roles is the Empowerment Dynamic roles, creator, challenger and helper.
• It’s natural to look at a problem and try to solve the problem. When the intention and the focus on the issue, it can spin us into this very hopeless, not empowered, lack of control place.
• The way we can escape the drama triangle is by shifting our focus to what we want to experience. For example,“What is it that we really want?”

“A problem is rarely ever solved from within the victim orientation.” —  David Emerald  

If you have a topic you would like me to discuss; please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you!   

Referenced Episodes:   

156 What Happens When You Feel Like A Victim In Relationship
157 How to Shift Out of The Victim Position

Links Mentioned:

• POWER OF TED* (*THE EMPOWERMENT DYNAMIC): 10th Anniversary Edition (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
• 3 Vital Questions (website)
• Power of Ted (website)
• Power of Ted Workshop

Connect with David Emerald:  

Twitter: @powerofted
Facebook: David Emerald The Power of TED
Website: powerofted.com & 3vitalquestions.com
Pinterest: pinterest.com/powerofted
YouTube: The Power of TED
LinkedIn: linkedin.com/company

Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins:  

Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship
Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins
Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts
Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation
LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins
Twitter: @DrJessHiggins
Website: drjessicahiggins.com  
Email: [email protected]  

TRANSCRIPT:

Click on this link to access the transcript for this episode: ERP 173: HOW TO TRANSFORM DRAMA IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP, WITH DAVID EMERALD [TRANSCRIPT]

If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please reach out to me. Here is my contact information.

Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. 

I would really appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.

Thank you!

*With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.