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Guest Bio:

Scott R. Woolley, PhD holds the rank of Distinguished Professor at Alliant International University. He is a founder and Director of the San Diego Center for Emotionally Focused Therapy and the Training and Research Institute for EFT Alliant (TRI-EFT Alliant).

Dr. Woolley has trained thousands of therapists in many areas of the world, including Canada, Chili, Finland, Great Britain, Guam, Hong Kong, Hungary, Ireland, Japan, Korea, Mexico, Norway, Russia, Sweden, Taiwan, The Netherlands, and throughout the U.S.

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In this episode, Dr. Scott Woolley and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss:  

• The role of emotion in relationship. How it influences our perception, desire and decision making.
• The internal working models of attachment about who we are, who other people are, and how we relate to them. 
• Three different categories/types of affairs and the motivating factors.
• The initial-crisis phase, and the importance of slowing down and not making any major decisions.
• The critical need to get support and/or good professional help.
• How being open and honest contributes to the healing and repair process.

“Secrecy tends to feed affairs, and honesty tends to heal affairs.” – Dr. Scott Woolley

• When partners can be present, vulnerable and engaged, there is a powerful connection that occurs.
• Emotional attunement helps create and fuel love between partners.
• To start the healing process, partners need to get in touch with their deeper, primary emotion.
• To begin the relationship repair process, it is important for the partner that had the affair to see and be with the pain of the injured partner and to express genuine remorse over their suffering.
• As a couple, it is important to understand why the affair happened, so that you can prevent it from happening again.

“Don’t give up on healing your relationship; it’s possible that your relationship can be better than it has ever been.” – Dr, Scott Woolley

• If people want to go through the process to save their relationship, it’s possible, but it will take a lot of dedicated time and work for both partners, but it can be accomplished. 

Connect with Dr. Scott Woolley:  

Website:   www.DrScottWoolley.com 

If you have a topic you would like me to discuss; please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you!   

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TRANSCRIPT:

Click on this link to access the transcript for this episode: ERP 175: How to Heal From an Affair – An Interview With Scott Woolley

If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please reach out to me. Here is my contact information.

Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. 

I would really appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.

Thank you! ❤